(Even When the Kids Are Wild and Dad’s Over It)

Family photo sessions are one of the most meaningful things you can do—but let’s be honest, they can also come with a bit of stress. Maybe you’ve spent days coordinating outfits, bribing toddlers with fruit snacks, and trying to convince your husband it’s not that bad. And now that you’re finally here, you just want  everything to go smoothly.

But here’s the real secret to beautiful, joy-filled photos: a positive mindset beats perfection every single time.

So take a deep breath, mama. I’ve got your back. Here are my favorite tips for keeping your attitude light and joyful during your family photo session—no matter what chaos might come your way.

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1. Embrace the Chaos

Let’s just get this out of the way—kids will be kids. Someone might cry. Someone might run in the opposite direction. That’s okay. That’s real life.

What matters more than perfectly posed shots is capturing your real connection. Sometimes the best images come from unexpected moments—giggles during a tickle fight, hugs in the middle of a meltdown, or that spontaneous game of chase.

If you let go of the idea that everything has to go exactly as planned, you’ll make room for joy to sneak in.

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2. Focus on Connection, Not Perfection

When you stop worrying about “getting it right,” you can start being present. Hug your babies. Look into your partner’s eyes. Kiss that chubby cheek or hold that tiny hand.

Your session isn’t about smiling at the camera—it’s about telling your story. And stories are messy, beautiful, and full of love.

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3. Set the Tone Before the Session Starts

Kids feed off your energy. If you’re stressed or frustrated, they’ll pick up on it. But if you’re relaxed, playful, and excited? They’ll usually follow your lead.

Talk about the session like it’s going to be FUN:

• “We’re going to play and laugh and take some pictures!”

• “Let’s see who can make the silliest face for the photographer!”

• “Afterward, we’re going for ice cream!”

If you’re positive, the mood usually follows.

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4. Give Yourself (and Your Family) Grace

Not every moment has to be camera-ready. Hair might get wind-blown. Shoes might get muddy. Someone might decide to sit down and eat grass mid-session (looking at you, toddlers).

Let it go. These are the little things you’ll laugh about later. The best sessions are the ones where everyone feels free to just be.

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5. Trust Your Photographer

Seriously—let me handle the hard stuff.

I’ve worked with wild toddlers, moody teens, and camera-shy dads. I know how to get the shot withoutforcing it. I’ll guide you with gentle prompts, play with your kids, and give you the space to be yourselves.

Your only job? Show up, love your people, and let me work the magic.

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6. Laugh It Off

When things go sideways—and they will, at least a little—laugh. It breaks the tension, resets the mood, and looks beautiful in photos.

You can’t fake joy—but you can choose it, even in the chaos.

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7. Remember the Why

You’re not doing this for social media or picture-perfect Christmas cards (okay, maybe a little for the cards). You’re doing this to freeze a moment in time that will never come again.

The snuggles. The missing teeth. The sticky fingers. The way your daughter looks up at you or your son squeezes your neck just a little too hard. That’s the good stuff.

That’s why you’re here.

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Final Thoughts: The Best Photos Come from the Real Moments

At the end of the day, the goal isn’t perfection—it’s connection. And when you show up with love, patience, and a willingness to let the moments unfold naturally, you’re going to walk away with photos that feel like you.

So take a deep breath, let go of the pressure, and step into your session with an open heart. We’re not just capturing images—we’re preserving memories. And those are always worth smiling about.

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Christin Coats Photography – Telling your story with heart, light, and a whole lot of love.

www.christincoatsphotography.com

@christincoatsphotography